Recovering Perfectionist

I haven't always listened to my mother's advice.

Not for skincare trends, and especially not when it came to faux friends. 

I was a child of the 90s so naturally I experimented with all of the hot fads; glitter lotions, rainbow eyeshadow palettes and lip venom lip gloss (I liked the tingly feeling…). I also didn't believe her when she told me that the girls being mean to me were in fact, jealous. The idea seemed preposterous, but I later realized that she was annoyingly right about both. 

I did, however,  listen to her when it came to eyebrows, tanning booths and sunscreen. She somehow put the fear of gods in me to not go in a tanning booth or eat fast food for those were sure fire ways to get cancer, advised (wisely) against over tweezing or over-waxing my eyebrows (check), and insisted I always wear sunscreen (double check). 

(I had a panic attack the one and only time I went into a tanning bed and quickly exited minutes into the session, but that's a story for another time.) 

Despite wanting to achieve that golden bronzed "I just spent my summer in the South of France" vibe, I (mostly) listened, and opted for a lightly tinted SPF face cream to protect my developing teenage skin. I did, afterall, want to be my mom's age and look the way she did, so who was I to argue? (To be fair, as a teenager, I argued plenty.) When our favorite face cream was discontinued, we had to find alternatives. At the time, there wasn't much out there with reputable ingredients that also felt good, so the journey took a while. 

It wasn't until many years later I happened upon the formula for the Restore serum. My mother, ever the cheerleader, tried the formula and immediately saw results, insisting to her friends, no she hadn't gotten Botox, it was just this simple little serum her daughter made. The power packed ingredients boost skin, but even though the Astaxanthin is known to have powerful sun protection, it hasn't been given an official SPF rating. 

Almost simultaneously, a friend turned me on to the Beauty Counter and their lightly tinted, SPF daily face cream. Not just taking her word for it, I did my own research and found them to be a respectable company, with ethical and sustainable goals I could get behind. 

I used to think that if I couldn't do everything myself, I was a failure. What pressure to put on myself, and how exhausting! To be a Renaissance woman or Jane of All Trades was one thing, but to never need help from anyone else ever is just unreasonable. When I started my journey in making my own skincare products, I lamented the fact that I didn't have a personally made product for every step of my skincare routine. Now I accept my limitations as a human (kind of...) and celebrate others who can do things I cannot. I will, however, always put on it a "Maggie Twist." Lately, I blend the Restore Serum with the Dew Tinted Moisturizer from the Beauty Counter, and for extra hydration, slather on some Balm to really lock in hydration. 

 

Now, in a lovely turn of events, my mother looks to me for skincare advice and product recommendations, and for that, my heart glows with pride. 

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